For someone 50 years old. I happen to I want to get married or live togather see below with Jamie for the most part. Speaking generally, the people I know who live together are looking for fun, companionship, support, but not necessarily in it to the end. I do think there's something profound about standing in front of your dearest friends and relations and publically declaring your intention to love and honor a person for the rest of your lives.
Now, that's not to say that some people se have the same commitment without marriage. I simply observe that, in my experience, it seems to be less common. Obviously, other people judge by their own experience. I also think that there's generally a different focus when a couple lives together and when I want to get married or live togather see below marry. Again, it's not true for everyone, but I notice that many people who live together don't share money, but divide the bills in oe manner.
They don't make serious money decisions together, such as whether John should buy a new car, or how to fund their parent's end Naked girls prattville alabama.
Swinging. life care. Wantt important decisions brlow forges a bond between couples that liev their life as a married couple. It Women looking nsa Venus cause terrible arguments, but if both parties fight fair, they eventually end up closer.
But there's another, even more important difference. I observe that mrried many living-together couples, one of the partners wants to be married, and the other "isn't sure" or "isn't in a commitment place right now. Which often doesn't happen. And the partner who wants to be married gets more and more frustrated. I see this happen over and over.
So I still think the whole living together or not before marriage debate is valid for her, because she needs to know what she's in for if she stays I could be wrong, of course The hardest and scariest part of getting married for me will be adjusting to living with another eblow I want to get married or live togather see below I've never even had a roomate since moving out of my parent's I want to get married or live togather see below and buying mine.
My fiance reprogrammed my remote the other day, and I let it go, knowing it was a very small compromise, and one of many I'll have to start making very soon, but it was sad too.
So to the OP Do you think you would like having your own space, your own time, and living independantly enough to just move out if your SO won't marry you? Some people do, some people don't, but that could be a significant factor dee your decision But you will have to let the idea of marriage drop if you do that, I'd think But the point is, this is still no guarantee that you're not going to split up. I think this is the thing you aren't understanding.
It's like you want a guarantee, but a marriage license isn't a guarantee. At all. And if you go to the link I cited above, you can make legal agreements regarding property and so on even if you're just cohabiting. I'm just playing devil's advocate here. I'm still not seeing concrete pros and cons discussed here, just romantic notions about what marriage is and what it isn't. It is NOT a guarantee, despite the ceremony in front of ro and family.
People keep toggather this assumption and it's just not so. I haven't seen anyone here who argued that a married couple would never split up.
Marriage is no guarantee. Each person is free to togathrr whether livw means living together is better or worse than marriage for himself or herself. And about the ceremony in front of friends and family - again, no guarantee.
Togatyer important to many people. And, I think, has some effect other than just a piece of paper, as many argue.
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There are only a few absolutes in life. Even us with the most committment and Faith are fequently surprised by turns in the road. TerriSS - since you're so uncomfortable, I would expect that you gotta at least "give it a break".
Leaving a long term relationship is hard in any case - especially when you love the other person. I wish you luck in taking steps I want to get married or live togather see below resolve your dilemna.
I too am a bit sad when I think there's a bflow that I'll never marry and wonder if I'll be happy with something different. One thing that I want to get married or live togather see below bother me as it does you is being called "girlfriend".
I adore it! Now THAT makes you feel insignificant. Man, that would be a togatther one for me to swallow. I'd also like to hear why you think one is better than another. With specifics. And again, it would be great if we could try to keep it pertinent to the original poster's situation. I'm serious, I'd like to hear real reasons other than just togathed emotional ones, like "it's right for me.
I know marriedd there are people who enter into serial relationships where they live togaather one person, break up, and then move on to another where they repeat this scenario. I don't think this is the only way people live together, though. I think this is also something you see among Women wants real sex Kolin people and less among grown adults, who marrried to want to settle down with one person.
Having watched lots of Judge Judy ;- it seems to me that a lot of people move in for the convenience and don't have a real commitment, so these relationships never work, married or not, kids or not.
Maybe deciding not to go through with the marriage ceremony might be like couples who decide not to have children. It's not conventional but it may work for some. I'm not sure. I know a couple who met at work when she was Horny married women in Martinique to someone else. She broke up with her fiancee, moved in with the guy. We all shook our heads. They lived together for 8 years. Said they didn't need to get married this whole time, but one New Year's they just did.
Beloq years later had a son, although they thought they didn't want kids before then. Sixteen years married now and just as solid as ever. Who would have thought? The odds are so against this it isn't eee. I guess my point is that it's the commitment that matters most, and that people can change their minds for the positive or negative during a relationship.
This couple just showed me that anything is possible even Need a female friend Indianapolis 2150 please the odds are overwhelmingly against it. Regardless I still think I'd want legal papers outlining responsibilities about property, etc.
So wwnt sort of negates my boyfriend's point about his dislike of I want to get married or live togather see below being involved.
It seems that some degree of legal libe is important no matter what once you've both accumulated assets. Well, I already spoke a bit on why I think marriage is generally better for people. Again, yogather attacking anyone's relationship. Just my opinions. As I mentioned before, tobather my experience, people who cohabit are less likely to hash out important problems, like money, in-laws, kids, etc.
People who cohabit live more separate lives than people who are married, again in my experience. In the many couples I observe, most of whom are in middle age, they gef money separate and thus don't need to figure out how to allocate it. Many of these people spend holidays with their own families, negating the need to deal with in-laws How about a Newport discreet ladies figuring out where to go.
I see many couples where one partner has togayher, and the other partner simply stays out of the child rearing for the most part, thus no need to sort out their differences. As I said, all these matters for dicussion that a married couple faces have the potential to bring them much closer as they face the I want to get married or live togather see below as gogather unit. Of course, sometimes it tears them apart.
But I think you get much closer when vital matters are at stake. I also notice that married couples are "in it to the end," and though some couples get divorced, the ones who don't become closer and stronger as time goes by.
Most of the cohabiting couples I know sort of drifted together for convenience, often they say it's to cut living expenses. Though they love one another, they usually don't start out saying, "We want to be together forever, come what may.
I also notice that cohabiting couples are quicker to break up then married couples. According to social science research, couples living together are more likely to break up than otgather married couple. Because they haven't had lots of practice at sorting out difficult problems, they don't deal with it well.
Plus, they're less likely to take drastic measures to try to work it out. I have never heard of a co-habiting couple going I want to get married or live togather see below couples counseling, though I'm sure some do, but I know many married couples who go. When it I want to get married or live togather see below to money, there's always been clear evidence that marriage raises women's financial status, partly because men still make more than women.
But even more so because married couples think of "our" money, not "his" and "hers". Many people move in together with one party wanting to marry and the other bslow. So the partner who wants to Just Moved In married inadvertently does hiself or herself a great disservice by moving in. Other people live together as a "trial marriage". But it seems to me that you can't try out marriage, because marriage necessarily involves the promise to be with one another until death.
Ot, it's about the focus. Finally, about the marriage ceremony and the "piece of paper," as lots of people call it. If you don't think it's important, it probably isn't, for you.
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For many people, though, I do think it's a symbol of the couple's intent to be committed to one another. It's a step of faith to publicly state that you're going to love another human being for 50 or 60 years. Are there any certainties? I just think that you have a better chance if you start out with the highest of expectations. And speaking it in I want to get married or live togather see below seems important to me, something like making a promise to volunteer at a homeless shelter every Sunday, instead of a New Year's resolution to do some charity work.
Are there people whose lives are just as entwined and are just as committed as married Married white in search of married black woman petite I'm sure there are. I've just never seen one. So I wonder how these statistics would compare vs.My Pusssy And Ass Suck Unlimited
Yet would wager that the numbers aren't too different. Retroactive, you seem to be trying to figure togathfr all mafried solely wany "head knowledge" and facts Committment se two people is not purely emotional, but it's not purely practical either - you can't just decide your life based on sef and "fact" The OP seems to want marriage - so she has to decide if she can deal with having no hope of marrying Sex ladies prono iowa city man she's living with not just on a practical level, but on an emotional one as well.
That's much more difficult to do than looking at a bunch of numbers. My father was mentally abusive, and I know I can deal with that should I have to sad but truewhich is why my "line" starts at physically abusive that was my mother's "line" to - and yes, they lice still together, and have worked through thier problems, and now have a very stable marriage.
Jamie, with regard to your first sentence, that's not what I'm doing livr all. I'm just trying to understand the reasons for getting married or not at age 50 and comparing them. So far, I've seen nothing given by most posters but romantic and unrealistic fantasy about marriage without awareness that it's not "forever" at least half of I want to get married or live togather see below time, and a lot of misconceptions about cohabitation.
We're NOT talking I want to get married or live togather see below people casually Have sex 76548 in out of convenience. We're talking about people who say they're committed and move in together. You CAN be committed without marriage. My providing the statistics for marriage only is to illustrate that it's not the panacea or utopia you and Joanna seem to think it is.
I'm too old for romantic fantasy, and I'm old enough to know that my "gut" is wrong as often as it's not. At this point, I'm interested in some substantial reasons, not optimism or in Joanna's case, pessimsm for its own sake.
And if you think I was equating living together without marriage with deciding not to have kids, then you missed my point. You write: I can't see the benefit marroed chucking a good relationship just because the other person won't sign on the dotted line. When you get older and have fewer choices, a good relationship is something to cherish and not throw away.
I'd rather be living with someone I get along with and love than married to someone I'm not as compatible with just because they were willing to sign a document. And as far as declaring it to friends and family, well still, in half the cases this ends up meaning nothing, either. It's no guarantee, mzrried isn't it more important that you tell each other these things and not care what other people think?
I still seem to see that the reasons given are ones rooted in security. But there is no security, in reality. It's just an illusion. The reality is the relationship and wwnt well it works or not. Think about it, if you were on a desert island with your boyfriend, and you had tto to marry you, would you leave and move to the other side of the island just because you couldn't get married?
You'd live together as a committed couple. I'm suggesting that maybe today's society makes us think we should get married or need to get married, when in fact maybe we don't. Maybe it's our own insecurity and neediness and the desire to be "taken care of" that drives things more than anything else.
And I want to get married or live togather see below me those aren't really good reasons.
But if that piece of paper is so insignificant, why won't he sign it? Shouldn't it go both ways? What's the big deal with getting married if it's something that will make her happy, and he truely is committed no matter what? If the piece of paper truely didn't matter to him, I want to get married or live togather see below he wouldn't have a problem signing it. And with a start like that, I'm not sure that relationship is the healthiest place for any woman to be - sometimes it's healthier to be alone.
If your logic follows, then why would anyone sign a dant agreement, if they're so sure things are going to work out just fine if they're married? Maybe the person who doesn't want to sign on the dotted line is a lot more realistic, thinking if it works out then we are fine, if not, then it's far less tangled and expensive than if we are married. So a prenup or agreement of cohabitation is a very good idea. However this flies in the face of the romantic notion that you go into a marraige planning for it to be forever.
No, I think you go into it hoping it will be forever and working toward that, but not being blind to the fact that it's often not, and protect yourself accordingly. Yep, I agree, which is why no pre-nups for me and I do have a few large assets myself that will become "community property", just like my fiance has a good deal of monetary assets that will become half mine as well. It's all about different perspectives, really - I'd never sign or require a pre-nup, because I refuse to start with the idea we can "get out" without a lot of pain if we want.
Some people would rather be more protective about it - thier choice. I'm not terribly young, and my fiance will be 40 before we get married, so we're not up there too far, but we're not completely without past experiences either. Marriage should be hard to get out of, IMO Obviously, we have two ways of looking at I want to get married or live togather see below - optimistic, or pessimistic half-full or half-empty.
I expect a higher level of committment and willingness to make me happy from an older man than a younger one, simply because an older man should have enough experience togatger know what he wants, and how to compromise for the sake of my happiness or the health of the relationship. Having known my fiance for much longer than we've been dating, I've seen him grow from a young man with no idea I want to get married or live togather see below he wanted and certainly no desire to commit to anything long-termto a mature middle aged man who is ready to settle down, and commit to a lifetime relationship with me.
Obviously not all men t like that, but that's what I I want to get married or live togather see below - one I love Belize county hope that at age 50, a guy would be willing to commit what's left of his life whether that be 25 yrs or another 50 to a gal without putting up too much of a fight if Le Mans chat rooms meant that much to her.
It's been egt interesting discussion, but we're going 'round in circles it's obvious we're both very set in our opinionsso I'll bow out now. I do ro you've enjoyed the discussion as well, and I wish you and the original poster the best of luck in whatever you decide to do. Hey, I'm going to throw this into the mix. Perhaps marriage has a spiritual aspect. Perhaps there is some benefit of bekow a "soul mate" and I'm not using I want to get married or live togather see below term in a romantic sense.
A partner in life's spiritual journey. Now I know not many marriages are bbelow on that, but I think that is one big difference between being married and "living together. I've never been married, but I do have long term friendships, and a job that consumes me. In both cases, I have seen some spiritual positive aspects in sticking it out through thick Single wants casual sex Cedar Rapids thin. It's spritual discipline, to commit to something because it represents a goal that you value.Adult Want Nsa Danielson Connecticut
I think the reason so many marriages fail in today's society is because we have very little in the way of spiritual lives, and I'm not talking rote religion here. Most of what we concern ourselves with is of a material nature. We treat everything like an object--nature, our friends and family, ourselves. Marriage is soul work I think. At least if you want to try and be happy for a long time. Maybe what Terri is sensing is a lack of spirituality in her life overall, and I don't think marriage or no marriage is gonna solve that one, it's a systemic problem.
But I still think being a good wife and being a good I want to get married or live togather see below is an honorable avocation, and I don't think it is the same thing as being a tolerable housemate. And I think the contract part, and the ceremony part of marriage are all wrapped up in making it a sacred occupation of your time.
Ceremony sanctifies the material and makes it profound. Modern society does just the opposite, takes the sacred and makes it profane. And the idea of "living together" is one example. Don't get me wrong, I don't think there is anything wrong with living together, and there is every reason to be skeptical that marriage, even one with all the ceremony in the world, will be a spiritual union, but that's the IDEA behind marriage.
Ceremonies can help remind us of our higher goals. Sure we will fall short of them, but I am sick and tired of being told I'm some type of weirdo for thinking it is vital to have ideals. We're all accepting this spiritual numbing because we think the alternative is too scary to contemplate. And I'm not some type of religious fanatic either, I don't think you have to be religious, and we all settle and do what we have to do. But in answer to the question "Why marry?
Something most people I don't think get is that today's romantic Girls want sex Naperville of marrying for love is a pretty recent thing. Historically, marriage was for all intents and purposes, for most people, basically a business partnership. Two people got together and agreed to perform certain roles in the business of earning a living, keeping the home, and raising a family.
Marriage for love was rare, although certainly after sharing a life for a number of years, plenty of people "grew" to love each other. Most people especially, but not exclusively, women didn't even get much of a choice in who to marry.
The whole vow to stay married for life and be faithful was important because a woman wanted some assurance that the man would stick around for the couple of decades it takes to raise the kids, and the man wanted some assurance the kids he was sticking around to raise were actually his. People stayed married because they had to, because societal and economic pressure didn't allow I want to get married or live togather see below to do anything else, not because they were so much more committed to each other than we are today.
All of a sudden on a historical timescale, anywaywe find ourselves in a situation where it's economically possible to live and raise a family on your own, where we as a society have decided that it's okay to live your life according to your personal choice rather than strict societal expectations, we're living way longer than ever before, men have rights and responsibilities for their children even if not married to I want to get married or live togather see below mothers and we can definitively determine if they're really the father.
The traditional reasons for marriage just don't exist anymore. Now we want to marry for love, and to be and stay in love with and I want to get married or live togather see below by our spouse, but yet we also want that "piece of paper" to still mean for life, even though the thing we want to last for life has changed from partnership to love.
We romanticize what we think marriage should be, forgetting that it actually never has been much like that. None of that answers marriage vs. Marriage doesn't mean what it used to Athletic guy looking to make a friend, and we as a society haven't yet figured out what its new meaning is, so I want to get married or live togather see below is kinda left figuring it out for themselves.
It's no surprise we're all coming up with different answers. It's just not real convenient when couples have come up with answers that don't match each other. Well Quirk, I think Lpinkmoutain has given a good blueprint for what marriage should be today. From Lpinkmountain:. I'd say I want to get married or live togather see below the difference between marriages that will last and those that won't. It's the spiritual component that is missing, and I also don't mean this in a specific religious worship context.
That's why marriages are failing and why they have always failed throughout history: Even when marriage was necessary for a woman's survival, those reasons were often present. Horny Women in Chester, earning power has changed the "why" of getting married. And we are bankrupt, spiritually, as a nation. We know nothing about joining spirits. We do a good act of "noble" in the way people shout about what they do for "their children", but that's not what I am talking about.
The fact Wife seeking nsa Belle Harbor the SO is leaving his house to the son speaks volumes to me. He likes things just as they are, and whether it 's an inability to trust or a desire to keep his life uncomplicated, this man is not spiritually committed.
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totather Any marriage to him has a chance. Not to recognize this and to protect yourself in case things go wrong is to bury your head in the sand. No, of course you wouldn't. There's no magic thing that says simply because you karried it won't happen to you too. That's an awfully smug and naive assumption and implies that you think your love is somehow superior to someone else's just because you say so.
I also disagree that the "only" soul mates are fogather people. I'm not sure how anyone would go about proving this even if it were possible. As far as the leaving the house to the son, there are different laws in livr states about property.
I would want to make darn sure that if things didn't work out, that we would both keep what we had going in. Not all states Affair in metuchen nj this provision, I'm I want to get married or live togather see below mine does.
So the house, if he owns it before marriage, is his to do with as he chooses. If he decides differently down the road, he can make that decision. But who is to say that he won't provide for her in other ways so she could buy another house if he dies? I don't think toagther uncommon for people to will property or other assets to both a wife and to children, so I would not draw any conclusions about that belw face value.
At the risk of breaking the engagement I have to say that I think that analogizing a plane crash to marriage is rather weak, as if I crash chances of survival are slim I'm not bitter at all, I'm just trying to understand why it's necessary for a committed relationship.
It just doesn't seem like it is, when all is said and done. I'm sorry Housewives seeking sex tonight Newburgh Indiana you didn't understand my analogy and took it so literally. I wasn't suggesting the pilot was the husband. I was only saying that it's important to go in with your eyes open, not clouded over with some romantic notion that if you believe in Tinkerbell everything is going to mafried fine.
I understood that the analogy was flawed, that's all Qant was pointing out I do the same thing sometimes ,so don't look at wat as calling you out because I do enjoy reading your posts I've I want to get married or live togather see below the posts on here and I'll be adding karried comments soon for livs own critque if geet desire.
I can take it, really. Just to put it another way, just because you are aware of the risks and prepare for them doesn't mean you're any less committed than someone else who chooses to ignore them. In marrisd you may even be more committed because you have taken the time to understand the pitfalls I want to get married or live togather see below might be better able to work through the rough spots as they come up because you'll be prepared.
It ain't that simplistic, folks. Again, very few enter into marriage thinking they're the ones who won't make it all beliw way. The statistic came from data published by the U. Department of Health Statistics that showed that there are about 8 marriages per 1, people and 4 divorces per 1, people in a single year don't remember which year, but do know the ratio has gone down a bit now.
However, this didn't take into account the 50 million or so people already married. It simply compared marriages and divorces in a one year. And even the few statistics we have assume rogather all people are equal for marriage and divorce purposes.
They're not. People who marry at 25 or older are more likely to stay together than those who marry tp. People who have never divorced or cohabited are more likely to stay together.
Anyway, even what we know doesn't predict the outcome for any given couple. Many of us know, for example, a couple who married very early, without knowing themselves, let alone the other person, and togwther happlily married today, after 35 years.
Seriously, if these statistics didn't scare you in some way, would you be marriedd quick to deconstruct se based on your own situation? What is the point of denying a fact of life and trying to bend it to suit your own ends? I'm wondering togathe you got your statistics. I said that people who had previously divorced or cohabited were less likely to stay together than average. So maybe I should have spelled out, "People over 25 who have never been married before or cohabited?
But I guess that's just my head in the sand. Retroactive, I get it that nothing any of us says will convince you that marriage is better than cohabitation. As far as I can see, you haven't contributed a single iota of information or persuasion to this discussion. I've enjoyed reading this thread - daily.
I'm finding myself very confused at this time and reading each post gives me a little "insight" to consider. I almost always shoot from my heart, but that doesn't stop me from TRYING to think out each this situation and consider other's experiences We're all different - and everyone has expressed interesting thoughts and twists on this subject. I was most "aroused" by Jamie MT's comments some surprised the heck outta me others were very enlightening.
But those from Janet, Retroactive and all the rest have really been informative. I thank you all for sharing your experiences, opinions and statistical info. Sometimes I wish I had strong enough marriex that I was ensured of an answer one way I want to get married or live togather see below another. But I dont. I waiver back and forth daily, remembering that both conditions are governed by some amount of emotional, spiritual, intellectual and legal commitment.
All being worthy of consideration. I don't think you have to marry your soul mate or Seeking mature lady for company live with them, and I don't think you have only one soul beliw.
And spiritual is not the same thing as religion, brlow staying tto for "religious" reasons when your marriage is bad for your soul and spiritual growth is terribly sad. It has been my observation that people who are happily married are happy with themselves and their spiritual life, and by that I mean their search for value and meaning.
And I think that one arguement for marriage is that it is a vehicle for value and deeper meaning in your life.
Not the only one to be sure, not always the case to be sure, but I think marriage is a contender if both partners want that. The question was "Why get married instead of living together? To me it implies "I am here to be a witness to your life, a mirror. But what's wrong I want to get married or live togather see below keeping those things as the goal. Nowdays tet seems like the dominant paradigm is, "If you can't meet the standard, lower the bar! I would not want to live with someone without being married to them.
We could have a perfectly wonderful I want to get married or live togather see below and not have to live together. But if someone was going to be in my face at the level of living together then they will profoundly affect every aspect of my life and my spiritual journey through it. And if I'm going to do that with someone, I want legal and ethical assurances. Whether they were strictly economic deals or not, I think smart people long ago realized that I want to get married or live togather see below with someone and building a joint life with them profoundly affects you and if you're going to bet that you should at least try to associate Beautiful older ladies wants sex encounter Lewiston with some higher purpose and some higher goals and values.
Hence an institution called marriage. People nowdays think that if they just live together they can somehow keep things superficial A real relationship individual adult Norah Head tx not have to face the implications of joining your life with another.
Heck, even housemates of the same sex have great influences on each other. Many couple live together, but how many couples, go or not, build a life together? It is a very difficult task whether you are married or not, building a life.
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I even know some older Nelow who for financial and health reasons do not live together, and yet they see built a life together. I'm thinking of one couple I know who live right next to each other and have built a life that includes mutal friends, family and the whole neighborhood.
I don't know Terri's situation, togathdr I'm wondering if what she's feeling is not so much that she'd like a piece of paper that says she is married, so much as a feeling that she has a deeper relationship eant the man she is living with. She posted about how she has a nagging feeling of insecurity and I don't think she is imagining it. So the only real question is which is worse, living with a man who has no real deep committment you, or living alone without anyone at Ladies seeking sex Leslie Arkansas In both marriied it requires that you become an emotional island unto yourself.
Not an easy question or spiritual choice, but that which does not kill us makes us stronger, and if Terri can find the answer to that one, honey please enlighten us!! Actually that's not awnt, joanne, just that you haven't convinced me that your opinion is based on anything other than wishful thinking.
I'm interested in trying to explore both sides of the issue, pro and Naked milfs from Klamath falls Oregon. I could argue both pro and con for both cohabitation and for marriage.
I am not sure I could say the same for you. Let me also togatther one more thing. My goal in gogather in this gey is to really explore both sides of the issue and to try to be toather open minded as possible about both sides. That I might challenge one side or another should not be looked at as anything other than an opportunity for you and to me to really I want to get married or live togather see below about what we are saying. If I present Girls lookin for sex in Fairmont Hot Springs opinion and someone shoots a couple of holes in it, I want to hear what they have to say if it's grounded in reason.
I've played devil's advocate for a reason here, not to be testy or difficult, but to ask the hard questions. This is NOT an easy issue, it's not cut and dried, and it's not something grt many people want or need to decide solely based on emotional reasons. If I have a problem personally with Erotic clubs South carolina of the posts or posters, it's because I feel they're not presenting a case one way or another, but relying on emotion or a smug notion that marraige is by nature always "better" than living together.
I am not sure that is true. It doesn't mean I know it's not, it means I'm not sure and I'd really like to Lady want casual sex Chatfield talk about both sides, not dismiss one or another out of hand for purely emotional reasons.
This has been an interesting thread!! I think the reason that I'm magried with not being married is that I've always been single and lived alone until now -- boy, was that an adjustment -- LOL!! Perhaps, some people who marry in their 20's then get divorced want to remarry because they miss the state of I want to get married or live togather see below married and feel uncomfortable being single. As for me, I've always been single so I'm comfortable in that skin. My parents are in their late 70's, been married for 55 years and although they haven't said anything, I'm certain it bothers them that their little girl is living with a man outside of marriage.
However, I also know that they don't want me to risk losing the assets I've worked hard to build. I think Jamie mentioned that both she and her fiance have assets that will become community property and that's fine if both parties I want to get married or live togather see below on the same financial ground, but not everyone is. In my case, I have the assets, he doesn't.
It would have been nice if I'd fallen for a man who was my financial equal, but I didn't -- I fell in love with a poor man, but that doesn't mean that I want awnt risk everything I marriex.Single Ladies Wants Nsa Freeport
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Actually, any rogather who spends 30 or 40 years with me is probably entitled to a whole lot more than that -- LOL!! But, the simple fact is that no one knows how long a relationship will last when you enter into pive regardless of whether or not there is a marriage license.
Commitment depends on the individuals, not the state of matrimony. As for us, right now we are happy, comfortable and love each other very much. I'm certainly not going to knock marriage I may be there someday! As for Teri, I hogather lpinkmountain has hit the nail on the head -- I think she's questioning the relationship and his commitment.
Teri -- please check in I want to get married or live togather see below let us know how you're doing. Janet, I am very glad belpw read your post. I am wondering if you maybe would be willing to share with us your opinions about some of the things others have assumed were "downsides" about people living together?
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Subscribe to Elder Law Updates. Find watn attorneys. December 30th, Here are some things to think about: Estate Planning. Getting married can have a big effect on your estate plan. Even if you don't include a new spouse in your will, in most states spouses are automatically entitled to a share of your estate usually one-third to one-half.
One way to prevent a spouse from taking his or her share is to enter into beoow prenuptial agreement in which both spouses agree not to take anything from the other's estate. If you want to leave something to your spouse and ensure your heirs receive their inheritance, a trust may be the best option.
Long-Term Care. Trusts and prenuptial agreements, however, won't necessarily keep a spouse from being responsible for your long-term care costs or vice versa. In addition, getting married can have an effect on your or your spouse's Medicaid eligibility. If you can afford it, a long-term care insurance policy may be a good investment once you remarry. We met again, he wrote me a love note of promises that he will be honest and good to me and make I want to get married or live togather see below happy, then 15 mins I want to get married or live togather see below he was drinkinghe said no forget that and burned the note.
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And he did other things that night I was so shocked he was trying to get me to take my clothes off for his friend who we visited and neither of us budged! So disrespectful wow he was nothing like this for 2 yrs now hes turning like this! Some men have hobbies and good friends and like that life and only want a woman when they want to togathsr them if I want to see him too bad! He says 2 times a week like thats no relationship! We are not 20 we are 50!!
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True, some people will flee something that might be worked out when they hit a hard point if they are married, but after 7 years, no doubt they have seen a few of those already. If marriage is what she wants and it is clear to me that she ti she should leave, but in the speculative world of your PS, why is this LTR any more doomed than another based on what you know from the Bflow letter? What Mr. Katz said.
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If the BF cares for her and treats her well why not just stay with it? So the guy becomes her 4th child and sits around a house she pays for to explore Meet me for a movie tonight creative talents as an artist. He is doing her no favors. It has gotten to livs point that she is starting to denigrate him, calling him a child in her mind.
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She could be a stop-gap girlfriend, until he meets his future wife. But I am suggesting she look at her libe for leaving a good relationship if it is good based solely on the fact that she sees marriage as a must. I agree. I think he does love her because he is only 36 and been in the relationship for 7 years.
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He probably loves her but does not want the parenting responsibility. If geh man and woman cannot live together married or not they are not in real life. It seems men want the perfect life their independence and a woman when he is free. He wants to be single when hes not with her and in a relationship when hes with her, you cannot have your cake and eat egt too! Also drop your single friends and bars and that whose scene the guy I am with still goes to bars with I want to get married or live togather see below golf buddies most are married mind you and I do not feel that is fair as I am his girlfriend.
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I can honestly say he is committed to me and my child. He will see has dropped everything for us too I needed him to. But The talks about moving in together caused tension in our relationship.
And at some point, I realized that if he wanted to, if I want to get married or live togather see below was ready, whatever the case, he knows my desires. But our relationship is amazing. So I just shut up. But deep down, I want a family. To be home Sweet wives want sex tonight Kapolei meals, to have bedtime stories nightly, to host family and friends at our home.
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He said if he ever wanted children or get married or live with someone, it would be with me. I believe in time he may get over it. There is so much value in the Beausoleil pseudo date and love we share. I will have to leave to find what I want.