I Am A Feminist

I am a Woman. I am a Feminist. 

Sometimes, and this doesn't just apply to women, things happen in our lives and we sit there and think to ourselves 'why did I let that person speak to me that way?' or 'why didn't I voice my opinion?' - it might happen in a professional environment or it could be something personal, but it happens right? Today was one of those days and I'm so disappointed in myself. It won't happen again. 

Do I really need to state that I'm not a bitch for having a fucking opinion.  

It would be predictable to sit here and say that all men are against feminists; that's obviously unfair and untrue but the fact that women are still reluctant to stand up and identify as a feminist because of the anti-male, bra hating bitch definition just proves that we still live in a patriarchal society.

“I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat.” - Rebecca West.

Forget about the word and it's negative connotations; what does it actually mean? Feminism by definition is simply the belief that men and women should share the same equal opportunities and human rights. Women who reject the term feminism, in my opinion, do not understand what it actually means. If you believe in equal opportunities and human rights as a whole then you how can you reject feminism? Do you think men should have more rights than women? No? You're a feminist. 

I read an article earlier about #WomenAgainstFeminism and my head nearly exploded and while I'm not sitting here with an elitist attitude towards feminism, what I read really upset me. The reasons for opposing feminism ranged from all genders wanting to live in a society full of love rather than condemnation (ironic since this is exactly what feminism stands for) to not needing feminism because they want "fat mentally ill single women to stop telling them they can't be pretty" - yup, I actually read that. 

It's so difficult to win the war against gender equality when so many forces, including women, are sitting against us.

Stereotyping feminists as ugly jealous bitches is another topic completely, one I could write about for days and who knows, maybe I will. Women are shamed enough without women shaming each other; I mean, why would you want to? We need to celebrate womanhood. Stop living someone else's life or ideal of what womanhood is - stop looking on the Internet and comparing yourself to other girls and thinking they are better than you because of the way they look. Womanhood is you.

I want women to speak out; be sexual, be honest and be bold. Do not let society tell you who to be or how to act. Put yourself out there and never be afraid to voice your opinions. Be happy in your body and your mind. What I want to say is don't make the mistake that I did today, don't oppress yourself just because the person you're talking to is a man or because you're scared of the consequences. Be proud to be a woman, be proud to be a human being.

"We cannot all succeed when half of us are held back" - Malala Yousafzai 

To be continued. 

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