10 Things I've Learnt in my Twenties



I'm the first to admit that I fall into the category of people that fear age. It's completely irrational and has nothing to do with death - it's more that I want to do so much with my life and fear that I'll never have the time to fit it all in and if I don't then I will spend my days hopelessly roaming around department stores, over and over and over.

If I think about it rationally, getting old really isn't like that: ageing is about becoming a rounded happy person, finding new passions, learning Italian because you want to and eating Pâté because you're fucking sophisticated now. I once read a really profound sentence and it went something like this 'Don't be one of those pricks sat in the Cereal Café in their pyjamas talking about how much they miss the old Ghostbusters' and I totally agree, stop clinging onto the past and live in the present. Here are 10 things I've learnt in my twenties.


1. It's all about quality when it comes to your friends: I think there comes a point when you realise that you're worth more than the way some people treat you. Don't settle for friendships out of fear that you'll have fewer friends - only allow people in your life that truly love and care for you. Life is way too short to let people control or influence you negatively.

2. Hangovers are real and evil: Yep, gone are the days when you could drink five times a week and wake up feeling funky fresh the next day. Something I still haven't learnt.


3. The world doesn't owe you anything:  If there's one thing I hate, its people that think the world owes them a favour. It's pretty simple and yet the point is infuriatingly ignored; if you want something - YOU have to make it happen. Please don't sit there whinging about how your life sucks and then do nothing to change it. You wear big girl/boy pants now - get a grip!


4. Qualities you used to desire, no longer seem important: The fact that he can do Kickflip on a Skateboard really isn't the deal clincher anymore. Physical attraction is still important, to an extent, but ultimately looks fade and there's no point wasting your time on a really dull hot guy. Personality, humour, honesty and integrity are way more important.


5. Every single way you used to wear your hair is embarrassing and terrible: True story: before I had the luxury of owning hair straighteners - I used to iron my hair. Yup, IRONED the shit out of it. Also, a mullet will never be/never was cool and neither are green highlights.


6.  Do something with your weekends: The struggle is real when it comes to removing yourself from bed and your Netflix account on a weekend. But ya know, sometimes, just sometimes, it's nice to go on a hike or visit a museum or even just get out of bed and wash.


7. You stop caring about what people think: Haters are always going to hate and if there's one thing I've learnt, it's that you can't please everyone and honestly, why would you want to? Be yourself, utterly and completely and if people don't like you for it - then that's fine and their problem. I know it's hard when people seem to dislike you for invalid reasons but you have to think; if that's the sort of person they are, do I really want them to like me and be my friend? The answer is probably no.


8. Teenagers need to be more chill: I have a 19 year old sister, believe me, I know! (Totally not true if you're reading this sissy). Seriously though, teenagers are irrational, hormonal, stubborn, hard done by and care about everything waaaayy too much. I've learnt a great deal since bidding farewell to my teen years and if I could have told my teenage self anything, it would be to just chill the fuck out.

9. You need to take care of your body: Being able to live off pasta and cheese is a life-long dream of mine, but do you know what would happen if I did? Obesity. Now I'm not saying that I enjoy going to the gym and eating carrots because I don't. Lets be real here, I'd much rather live off micro-chips but I can't. Eating well and working out makes you feel good and that's half the battle sometimes.


10. Nobody knows what the hell they're doing: I think we're all guilty of worrying about where our life is going and dwelling on the stupidest of things. Truth be told - most people want the same thing out of life; happiness and most people spend their whole life trying to reach it. In the words of Ronan Keating (lolz) 'life is a rollercoaster you just gotta ride it'. Who cares if you still play Pokémon and The Sims in your twenties? Hell, my best friend has a real child and still plays The Sims. Who cares if you don't know what you want out of life? The key thing is to stop worrying about it - nobody knows what the fuck is going on half the time anyway.

25 comments :

  1. Ha! This post was hilarious. Hilariously good. Love your sense of humor.

    I've been working on a post for ages about 'What I've learned since turning 30'. Feeling motivated to actually finish it now...

    Hope you're having a great week!

    V
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    1. Glad you enjoyed it V! You should totally do a post about what you've learnt since turning 30 - I'm sure it'll give me lots to look forward to haha! xx

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  2. Totally agree with 1 and 7!!

    Tara x

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    1. I think the thing that most people learn when they get older is not to care about what others think - it's definitely been a valuable lesson to me! xx

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  3. That's so true! ahah everything you said is true!
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  4. i think i can relate to every single one of these!

    xx danielle // shades of danielle // bloglovin

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    1. I think we all go through similar stages in life or we seem to anyway! xx

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  5. I’ve just found your blog and I’d like to say that I’m in love with it!
    I like your posts and photos! Really amazing!
    I’ll be happy to see you in my blog!)

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    1. Awh thanks Diana! I really appreciate this comment. xx

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  6. I think the biggest things I relate to here are not caring about what people think and having big hangovers of doom!

    Corinne x
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    1. Haha, hangover of doom! So true. xx

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  7. Loved this post and honestly I could not agree more with everything on this entire list. I fear growing older too for the same reason, but then I remind myself that the person I am today is the best version of myself, and that every day is a chance at personal growth and improvement so it can only go uphill from here :)

    Rae | love from berlin

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    1. Thanks Rae - it's a strange one isn't it? Great advice though, I feel exactly the same! xx

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  9. I feel your pain, I am the exact same. I fear age more for fear that I'm running out of time to accomplish and experience things I've been dreaming about. Things that I need to do now, not 5 years down the track. It doesn't help that I just had another birthday too. I've been in a real funk over it too. I love this post, I LOL'd re the hair. I never cut mine in a mullet and I somehow managed to steer clear of bright pink strips but I did curl it a lot back then and I cringe at those curls, all tight and uneven, like I was trying to pass them off as real.

    (Forget that last comment, I pasted some totally random link intended for a FB friend bahahaha!)

    Sxx
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    1. Maybe we're just impatient? I know what you mean though - it's really hard not to want everything all at one, I'm sure we will accomplish many of the things we dream about, all in good time. You're lucky that you didnt cut yours into a mullet, unfortunately I had mine for long enough for photographic evidence to be obtained... haha. Tight curls where all the rage - I permed mine for a very brief period of time lol! xx

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  10. Soooo true!! The most relatable for me is the not caring about what others think bit ;) very insightful and inspirational post <3

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    1. Thanks Nicole - I think this is the one that most people can relate to the most! xx

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  11. these are amazing and all so true! Love this <3

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  12. Lol - these are all so true. Especially the last one. I totally thought I would have it all figured out by now but no such luck. I guess that's what makes life exciting tho :)
    Claire xx

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    1. Haha, thanks Claire! I totally agree - it's sometimes nice not having a plan and just coasting your way through things, it definitely makes the ride more exciting! xx

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